It’s amazing how two faced family can be. You work hard, get an education, become successful, and then they start moving their mouth saying shit like, “you think your better than everyone”…really? Family is suppose to be about support and motivation. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Sometimes you have to toughen up and stay away from negativity (even if it’s your own family) to really focus on your goals and remain positive in reaching them.
I had good examples growing up, both my parents didn’t come from stable homes. Both different, but filled with different levels of instability. There was favoritism, envy, no communication, and no affection. The both of them together wanted a different environment for their own children, so they made that happen. We were beyond blessed to have parents that not only were amazing in raising us, but they made up for the family roles we lacked in our childhood such as aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. So holidays and birthdays were and still are big celebrations in our immediate family.
Being the oldest grandchild from both sides of the family, I saw and heard with my own eyes and ears plenty of things that made all sense of why my parents made sure we all were loved and treated equally. Till this day, as adults, they’re still that way. From what I know of my grandparents, I can honestly say that my parents are nothing like them. Whatever they did to keep only the good qualities they inherited from their parents, it worked.
Now as an adult, I’m closer to my immediate family more than ever. We may even get viewed in a bad way or judged just because we stick to ourselves and not get involved and go to family events. It is better not to go than act fake anyway. I’m close to a few cousins, aunts, and uncles…And that’s very few. I’m proud of my parents for always standing tall together even though other parts of the family gossip about them. I’m even more proud because they taught us do be the same way. With all the lying, stealing, scheming, and gossiping both sides of the family has done, I’m glad we were never around any of it. So anytime my brothers or I accomplishes something, we get nothing but happiness and motivation from my parents.
My family now has grown. Not only do I have two gorgeous nephews and a beautiful step daughter, but I have wonderful friends. These friends are the next best thing to my family. In good times and in bad, they are there always. They are who makes my world go round.